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Sunday AM Remix – 5.8.11 Mothers Day Edition

Happy Mothers Day!!! Hope you took the time to let the Mom’s in your life know how special they are. It was another great day at First Baptist Harvester as we continued or series called “Parent Trapped … Biblical Wisdom for Popular Pitfalls” Today topic: Parenting … Extra Grace Required” Here are the notes from todays teaching by our Discipleship Pastor Chris Chapman.

Parenting … Extra Grace Required
Ephesians 6:1-4

*What will my kids mimic as they look at me and follow my example?
*Reality, our children can easily become idols of our heart!
*They way we parent our kids affects them now &  impacts how they parent in the future.


1. Trap #1: We Aim At The Child’s Mind (The Ruler)

➢ If We Can Encourage PROPER Behavior, Then They Will Become PRODUCTIVE Children.

*The Ruler has no flexibility because it’s all about rules.
*It’s easy to get lost in the rules and miss the person (our kid) we are shaping.
*The Ruler is motivated by external issues, following the rules
*When we make rules the main thing, we miss the relational side of parenting.
*In this we create rule followers who become experts at checking boxes.
*The Ruler practices reactionary parenting.

“For the mind that is set on the flesh is hostile to God, for it does not submit to God’s law; indeed, it cannot. Those who are in the flesh cannot please God.” Romans 8:7-8 (ESV)

“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” Romans 12:2 (ESV)

*The Ruler sets rules and punishes their kids for breaking the rules. Discipline on the other hand is rooted in the word disciple.  It’s a teachable approach to parenting that is very Biblical.

2. Trap #2: We Focus On Controlling Each Situation They Encounter. (The Over-Protector)

➢ If We Can ISOLATE Our Children From the World, Then We Can Keep Them INSULATED From Evil.

*Helicopter parenting – parents who hover over their kids.
*If we raise our kids in a bubble and protect them from everything, we are not training them to handle the attack of the Devil once they leave our bubble as parents.

“Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.” Proverbs 3:5-6 (ESV)

“Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb a reward.” Psalm 127:3 (ESV)

*Children are a gift from God and as a parent I am called to be a good steward of the Gifts God has given me!

“Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth.” Psalm 127:4 (ESV)

*Arrows are made for a specific purpose and shot at a specific target! As parents, are we preparing our kids to hit a specific target?

3. Trap #3: We Are Determined To Create A Positive Self-Image (The Cheerleader)

➢ If We Can BOLSTER Self-Esteem, Then They Will Have A BETTER Self Image.

“The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?” Jeremiah 17:9 (ESV)

“As it is written: ‘None is righteous, no, not one . . .’” Romans 3:10 (ESV)

“I can do all things through him who strengthens me.” Philippians 4:13 (ESV)

4. Goal: We Must FULFILL Our God Given Roles, To Effectively Lead Our FAMILY Into What God Desires.

“You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might.” Deuteronomy 6:5 (ESV)

“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. . .” Ephesians 5:25 (ESV)

“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.” Ephesians 5:22 (ESV)

“Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.” Ephesians 6:1 (ESV)

“Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6 (ESV)

BOTTOM LINE: We need to Model Integrity for our Kids and be the Parents God has called us to be.

*It’s caught not taught
*We need to live what we say!

If you missed today, I highly encourage you to watch this weeks message by clicking here and then make plans to join us next week at FBC Harvester. If you have questions, please feel free to contact us here!

We are really excited about this series and cant wait to see what God will do next as we learn to survive and thrive as Parents and raise our kids in the type of Home they really need!

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