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Ephesains 6

February 26, 2009 Leave a comment Go to comments

“Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.” v. 4 (NLT)

Being a Father is both fun and challenging.  I am learning as my boys grow they are picking up all the good and bad qualities that I show off in front of them.  The challenge as they develop is to lovingly teach them the way they should act.  How I do this has big returns in the way they respond.  For example, right now Josiah is starting to lie.  We are in the process of teaching him why he/we shouldn’t lie.  It’s a process that if we aren’t careful we could totally miss the opportunity to teach him this in a loving way and something he will struggle with his whole life.  My role as a dad has huge impacts on my boys.  Realizing this early will save me from heartache later.

Something to think about:  When it comes to the way you interact with your kids, do you spend more time building them up or tearing them down?  Here’s what I mean, are you always pointing out things they are doing wrong or encouraging them in the things they are doing right?  I was encouraged and challenged yesterday by this thought.  As parents we should spend 90% of our time building our kids up and 10% of our time correcting behavior.

It’s a great challenge that may seem unreasonable at first, but what do you have to lose if it does not work?

Today, if you’re a dad, try to spend some extra time with your kids.  Encourage them by telling them the good things you see going on in their life.  Example, Josiah is only 4 but I try to encourage him daily with Words of Life.  Give it a try, it will bless you and them and bring your relationship closer.

  1. February 26, 2009 at 7:48 am

    Great post.
    I grew up in a Christian home, but probably heard 75% of the time the things I was doing wrong. My wife and I strive to do the 90/10 rule you mentioned. We definitely correct when correction is due, but we try to build on the strengths and the positives in our children’s lives.

    I think the tone and the method that we do the correcting is huge. I do get a much better response when it is done in love and with patience than when I get caught off guard at times and come down too hard and not in a loving way.

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